Monday, December 8, 2008

Take responsibility for yourselves!

I found out recently that my brother is addicted to cocaine. I knew that he had been using it fairly seriously, but he assured me that he was quitting. But he just hit rock bottom after a fairly dramatic incident which I won't talk about here. He now admits that he needs help.

So I was looking at what programs are available to help. I found Cocaine Anonymous, which I didn't know existed before. I didn't know much about these 12-step programs, but I was pretty upset at what I found.

The 12 steps are listed below:

1. We admitted we were powerless over cocaine and all other mind-altering substances — that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

A full 6 of the 12 steps involve God in some way, and another step is about a spiritual awakening. Look at steps #6 and #7. We are ready to ask God to remove our defects of character, and we ask it to do it? What the fuck is that?!

Why can't people take responsibility for themselves? There's no way that I would refer my brother to this option. It breeds weakness, and he already has enough of that.

Why are people so lacking in confidence that if/when they finally do beat a problem, they'd credit an imaginary entity instead of themselves? If you believe the only way that you can solve your problems is with the help of supernatural beings, I tell you to grow up and grow a spine! In the case of drug addictions, try being strong enough to resist trying them in the first place!

You can do it by yourself *face slap* if you just take responsibility for yourself! *backhand face slap*


tina FCD said...

My mom started going to AA 35-40 years ago. This is why she's religious. I think it's a load of crap too.

Michael Crawford said...

I couldn't agree more. You might want to inform your brother that AA/NA is closer to a religious cult than any actual medical "treatment". It's sucess rate is also no better than the spontaneous rate of remission (no treatment).

Google "AA cult or cure" or click her for more information:

Chapter 7 covers AA's sucess rates and Chapter 11 covers whether or not AA could be considered a cult.

AA's doctrine teaches that people are powerless over their substances. While this sounds good on paper, this doctrine of powerlessness often convinces people that their usage is out of their control. It is likely for this reason that court offenders with AA treatment have a 5 times higher rate of binge drinking than those with no treatment at all and a 9 times greater rate than those who have had rational behavior therapy (brandsma et al*).

There are secular treatment alternatives with much higher sucess rates. If you care about your relative, I would look into those instead of AA. Stanton Peele is a person you might want to google in that respect.

* Outpatient Treatment of Alcoholism, by Jeffrey Brandsma, Maxie Maultsby, and Richard J. Welsh. University Park Press, Baltimore, MD., page 105.

Unknown said...

yes, they also say the lord's prayer at the end of each meeting. What a tragedy that AA needs to incorporate religion and god into their healing process.
Most , not all recovering drunks or druggers are now hooked on Jesus. Weak, weak. I encountered a check out guy at a supermarket who repeatedly told me how blessed he was and that I need Jesus in my life. He was obviously a recovering addict. Weak....... It's so frustrating to witness brainwashing in it's ugliest form.

Anonymous said...

Your a cocaine addiction exists because god hates you!